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Ex-Husbands w/ Tessa Skara – Ep. 95

¡Ay, caramba! Comedian and rock goddess Tessa Skara (High Maintenance) came to dyke out with us about ex-husbands, though admittedly, she has more to say on the topic than we do. Tessa tells us how TV sitcoms shaped her idea of what a husband was supposed to be, and how her queer identity affected the relationship. Her journey to becoming a fabulous NYC divorcée is heartfelt, fascinating, funny, and probably relatable for many of our listeners. We also talk about Broadway’s The Prom, our own proms, holding in emotions, and the toxic manifestations repressed homosexuality. Plus, we share our theories and gripes on the now infamous “Work Wife” piece from The New York Times. And as always, we end with a listener question about the acceptance of being aroflux in the LGBTQ community. Thank goodness for Google.

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Intersecting Identities w/ Jess Guilbeaux – Ep. 79

Season 3 Episode 5 of Netflix’s Queer Eye brought us the story of Jess Guilbeaux, a strong black lesbian who was out on her own after being outed to her adoptive family. Jess was gracious enough to dyke out with us about how that episode has affected her life, but also about living with intersecting identities. Many of us our judged by our identity, or identities, as many of us have multiple. But sometimes they can be at odds with each other, or we may be at odds with the label itself when we don’t fit perfectly into societies expectation of one category or another. We talk about labels and doing the work for more marginalized identities, and end with a plea to Paramore and a listener question about her family who doesn’t acknowledge her queerness.

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Femme Invisibility w/ Jacq The Stripper – Ep. 36

Queer Bimbo(TM) Jacqueline Frances aka Jacq the Stripper graces the Dyking Out studio with her presence to talk about Femme Invisibility. Is it still even a thing? What kind of pressures do baby dykes face to look or conform to certain lesbian ideals? Do we all go through the vest phase? We revisit our Strippers topic as Jacq dishes about why women are terrible strip club patrons, and how the gig has helped her be true to her own identity when she’s off the stage. We also talk about Canada because when you have two Canadians in the same space, by law, they have to talk about. Plus, Carolyn rants about the terfs who attacked her on Twitter.

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Kids & Gender w/ Caitlin Ruppert – Ep. 33

Three cis-gendered queer women without kids walk into a podcasting studio to talk about challenging gender norms and raising children. What could go wrong? Comedian and child-caregiver Caitlin Ruppert joins us to talk about why we need to stop shaming and correcting kids who act outside of gender norms. Also, who decided that trucks are for boys anyways when, newsflash, women are allowed to drive them too (at least in this country). Are gender reveal parties strictly a straight person thing? Why are people obsessed with the romantic lives of babies? (It does sound a little bit adorable…) We also talk about the terrible people who love forcing other to drink shots. If that’s you, KNOCK IT OFF.

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Pansexuality w/ Mindy Raf – Ep. 30

Pansexual is no longer just the term once used to describe pixyland.org. It’s actually a sexual identity that an increasing number of people in the LGBTQ community identify with despite its anemic representation in mainstream media and pop culture. We’ve talked about it before, but wanted to invite quintuple threat Mindy Raf (TNT, VH1, MTV’s Girl Code) to dyke out about her pansexuality in more detail. We also revisit the topic of polyamory and do it much more justice than the first time around (sorry polys!). We hope you enjoy the discussion, and if not, then you can walk right out the fe-door-a (or just email us and tell us why). Plus, one of our hosts makes an exciting announcement that only her and her mom will probably care about! Tune in!

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Sex Ed w/ Alyssa Robbins – Ep. 27

It’s our first guest who has a movie based on her life! Alyssa Robbins is a Brooklyn-based singer-songwriter and the inspiration behind the movie Becks. We are thrilled that she joined us to talk about her side gig teaching sex education to adolescents. Listen and learn how far we’ve come from putting condoms on bananas! We make a pretty solid case for the importance of comprehensive sex education in schools, and also get Alyssa’s insight on what to do if you have a kid who masturbates way too much. Later on in the episode, we dyke out about our favorite LGBTQ movies and try to make “spreadin’ the jam” a thing. Plus, if you’re in New York City on March 17, 2018, be sure to come out to see Alyssa in concert at Pete’s Candy Store in Brooklyn at 9pm.

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Dating Straight Women w/ J. Fox-Jones – Ep. 25

Comedian and dater of straight women, J. Fox-Jones joins us this week to tell us why some lesbians end up with women who used to exclusively date men. Do lesbians seek out straight women as a challenge, or are these ladies hunting us down while we’re just minding our own business? If you date a straight woman, does that mean you have to *GULP* watch The Bachelor????!!! Does she assume you’ll handle things like installing shelves and killing bugs? We also give tips on how to watch Black Panther with a queer eye, and Sarah comes up with a radical alternative to watching movies…that just happens to sound a lot like TV.

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Straight Women w/ Kaitlin Fontana – Ep. 21

Fresh off of her directorial debut at Sundance, writer/director/comedian/badass Kaitlin Fontana (The Box, A&E’s Black & White, Franchesca) joins us to let us know once and for all, what is the deal with straight women? Okay, maybe not once and for all because we barely scratched the surface of what it’s like for our straight allies out there drowning in a sea of dangerous dick. We ask Kaitlin what’s it like to have to play the role of girlfriend AND mother, and more importantly, what are men actually good for? The answers may just turn you straight! LOL JK. Kaitlin also enchants us with tales of polyamory and trying to find a sugar daddy. Tune in!

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Performative Masculinity w/ Lorena Russi – Ep. 20

Former pro soccer player, would-be Bobby Fischer and current hilarious comedian Lorena Russi (Late Night with Stephen Colbert, Spotify) joins us to talk about taxes, Lena Waithe, nazi haircuts and finally, our topic for this week! We attempt to tackle the messy and smelly world of performative masculinity while questioning how much of what we do is putting on an act or an imitation versus being true to who we are. We also struggle to answer the question of why so many lesbians aspire to look like teenage boys. Lastly, we’d like to apologize to Jennifer Aniston in advance for this episode and hope she doesn’t take anything we said personally.

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Sexuality and the South w/ Jourdain Searles – Ep. 18

Happy New Year! We’re back with an episode recorded in late 2017 but still very relevant. Many places in the South value tradition and religion, which means the region know for its hospitality is not so hospitable to the LGBTQ community. We’re joined by Augusta, Georgia native and comedian Jourdain Searles, and she dykes out about what it was like growing up as a queer black woman two hours outside of the more gay-friendly city of Atlanta. We also talk about Carolyn’s ongoing love/hate relationship with moviepass and how lesbian programming is the original Hallmark movie.

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