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The Apocalypse w/ Lois Thompson – Ep. 59

The lovely and funny Lois Thompson joins us to dyke out about all things apocalypse. No, not the latest season of American Horror Story, rather the impending doom that feels like it’s just around the corner. But then again, hasn’t every generation felt that way? Well whether it’s coming next year or next millennia, Lois is PREPARED. We question whether or not it’s even worth trying to survive the end of the world, though maybe this is a chance for the lesbians to rise up. (We should probably rise up, apocalypse or not.) Lois also brought along her “go bag” for when shit gets real and showed us what’s inside. And after learning about helpful preparation tips, Carolyn makes Sarah and Lois play an apocalyptic game of hypotheticals called “What’s in the boooooox?” We’re pretty sure we scarred Karina with this episode. We close it out with a listener question about sexy time disparities in open relationships. Don’t wait until the end of times, listen now!

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Loneliness w/ Aimée Lutkin – Ep. 58

Feeling lonely? Let us keep you company! The one and only Aimée Lutkin (Jezebel, UCB, 2 Dates a Week) joins us to talk about dating, being single and loneliness in an episode recorded right before Halloween (Carolyn’s couples costume announcement will be old news). Fun fact: being in a romantic relationship does not shield you from feeling lonely. We talk about the different ways that people feel lonely, as well as the unfortunate pressures we put on single people who are just trying to live their damn lives. Also, Sarah temporarily swears off relationships while Carolyn rolls her eyes so hard, you can almost hear it. We also take a listener question about what to do when you bomb a date with someone you were into.

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Life-Changing Decisions w/ Liz Glazer – Ep. 57

Comedian and friend of the podcast Liz Glazer graced our studio with her presence to dyke out philosophically about Life-Changing Decisions! What does changing your career from Lawyer to Comedian/Actor have to do with coming out? More than you think! We explore how and why we make life-altering choices in our life, and what role our emotions place in the decision-making process. These moments are often scary and come with loads of uncertainty, so how do you navigate them and know whether or not you’re making the right decision? How do you support others on the brink of making a big change? You’ll also learn about the fun time Carolyn met Cecilia’s ex-wife, and what Liz had to do with it. Plus, we answer a listener question about how to deal with religious parents when you’re in a new and important relationship.

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Sports w/ Erin McKeown – Ep. 56

We really scored in getting the talented Erin McKeown to dyke out with us about Sports! As a musician, Erin loves how sports can provide entertainment for her outside of her industry. From the athlete back stories to the unpredictable nature of games, there’s so much to love. Also, how have we gone so many episodes of a lesbian podcast without “sports” as a topic when it plays such a huge role in the lives of so many queer women? But before we dive into the topic, Erin tells us about her work as the composer and lyricist for the musical Miss You Like Hell, which you can listen to by purchasing the original cast recording here (it rocks, your ears and heart will thank you). We also round the bases on topics like civic duty, trolls, and Rachel Maddow. And as usual, we end with a listener question about her partner’s rude-ass friends.

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Matchmaking w/ Kara Laricks – Ep. 55

Fashion designer turned reality-TV-winner turned matchmaker Kara Laricks joins us to dyke out about matchmaking! We live in a world of swipes and DMs, but does that have to be the only way to date? Kara tells us all about how she sets up “foxy singles” with her LGBTQ clients, and what it means to be a matchmaker specifically for that community. We hear all about the do’s and don’ts of first dates (hint: stop talking about your ex so much!), as well as why you shouldn’t lose hope when a date doesn’t work out. Plus, Carolyn discovers her wife’s secret super power and apologizes for assuming Awkwafina is a gaysian! We end with a listener question about how to talk about your ex that you dated pre-transition.

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Interracial Relationships w/ Lauren Ashley Smith – Ep. 54

We welcomed back Lauren Ashley Smith (The Rundown With Robin Thede, VH1.com, Netflix) to dyke out with us, because once was not enough! This time, we’re tackling the topic of interracial relationships. Are queer couple more likely to enter them? What are some of the challenges? How can each person use their respective privilege to support the other? There is so much to discuss around this topic, but we get a tad distracted while getting into race politics in America and how it presents its own set of challenges. Plus, Carolyn gives her reviews of the movies Lizzie and Colette, and she delivers a very important PSA for anyone in a Q&A session.

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Gay Conversion Therapy w/ Garrard Conley – Ep. 53

Garrard Conley, author of Boy Erased and activist, joined us to talk about his experience with gay conversion therapy and what it’s like to have a painful part of his past turned into a feature film. We had SO MUCH to talk about, starting with our collective rage about the Kavanaugh hearings and the high standards we (society) measure victims/survivors against. After twenty minutes of therapeutically channeling our rage, we move onto a just-as-heavy topic: Gay Conversion Therapy! First, we talk about some of the differences between the upcoming motion picture and his memoir. Then, we dive into casting, from his parents getting played by academy award-winning Aussies, to the challenges of casting LGBTQ roles. From there, we go into the dangers of conversion therapy and what battles still need to be fought, as well as where  progress is being made…and so much more. Despite the dark topic, we managed to have SO MUCH fun on this episode (because we might all be dead inside)! Probably too much fun because we had to edit out at least 15 minutes where we took things a little too far. We end it with a question from a Canadian listener who is fresh out of the closet. Buy and read Boy Erased, and then see it in theaters. Or the other way around, whichever. #RepresentationMatters #TellQueerStories

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Lesbian Weddings w/ Lauren Ashley Smith – Ep. 52

We’re back with Lauren Ashley Smith (The Rundown With Robin Thede, VH1.com, Netflix) to dyke out about lesbian weddings! Do dykes tie the knot differently than the heteros? Is it best to buck traditions or do we carry societal notions of what a wedding should be? Lauren and Carolyn talk about their own weddings including what they liked and what they regretted, while Sarah daydreams about Blake Lively. But before we talk about place cards and photo booth props, we open a gaymazing gift from an awesome London-based listener, welcome back Karina, and talk about the Great British Bake Off. We end the episode with a question from a listener who is sick of women hitting on her wife right in front of her.

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Disney w/ Jeanna Kadlec – Ep. 51

Once upon a time, writer Jeanna Kadlec (Nylon Mag, Autostraddle) went to find her father in the woods, only to end up the prisoner of two dykey beasts. The beasts demanded she tell them about the queer subtext of Disney films, including why so many of the male villains read as homosexual. Before the final rose petal falls, they dance around topics like Louis C.K., the French revolution, meeting celebrities in bathrooms, and how Cruella de Vil belongs on the Upper East Side. Things seem to be going well until one of the beasts discovers that Jeanna has never watched Buffy. Does this episode have a happy ending? You’ll have to listen to find out.

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Divorce w/ Tara Clancy- Ep. 50

For our 50th episode, the incredible Tara Clancy (NYT, NPR’s Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me, The Moth) joined us to talk about Carolyn’s favorite topic: Divorce! Okay, maybe it’s not her favorite topic, but it was nice to have another divorced dyke to commiserate with. We talk about the external pressures that make you feel bad about ending your marriage, even when it’s the best thing for everyone involved. How do things get to that point? How do you move on? What do you do when children are involved? Are vacations to National Parks the beginning of the end for queer couples? We also take a listener’s question about her “friend” who she swears isn’t her, but we’re not buying it!

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