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The Apocalypse w/ Lois Thompson – Ep. 59

The lovely and funny Lois Thompson joins us to dyke out about all things apocalypse. No, not the latest season of American Horror Story, rather the impending doom that feels like it’s just around the corner. But then again, hasn’t every generation felt that way? Well whether it’s coming next year or next millennia, Lois is PREPARED. We question whether or not it’s even worth trying to survive the end of the world, though maybe this is a chance for the lesbians to rise up. (We should probably rise up, apocalypse or not.) Lois also brought along her “go bag” for when shit gets real and showed us what’s inside. And after learning about helpful preparation tips, Carolyn makes Sarah and Lois play an apocalyptic game of hypotheticals called “What’s in the boooooox?” We’re pretty sure we scarred Karina with this episode. We close it out with a listener question about sexy time disparities in open relationships. Don’t wait until the end of times, listen now!

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Loneliness w/ Aimée Lutkin – Ep. 58

Feeling lonely? Let us keep you company! The one and only Aimée Lutkin (Jezebel, UCB, 2 Dates a Week) joins us to talk about dating, being single and loneliness in an episode recorded right before Halloween (Carolyn’s couples costume announcement will be old news). Fun fact: being in a romantic relationship does not shield you from feeling lonely. We talk about the different ways that people feel lonely, as well as the unfortunate pressures we put on single people who are just trying to live their damn lives. Also, Sarah temporarily swears off relationships while Carolyn rolls her eyes so hard, you can almost hear it. We also take a listener question about what to do when you bomb a date with someone you were into.

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Gay Conversion Therapy w/ Garrard Conley – Ep. 53

Garrard Conley, author of Boy Erased and activist, joined us to talk about his experience with gay conversion therapy and what it’s like to have a painful part of his past turned into a feature film. We had SO MUCH to talk about, starting with our collective rage about the Kavanaugh hearings and the high standards we (society) measure victims/survivors against. After twenty minutes of therapeutically channeling our rage, we move onto a just-as-heavy topic: Gay Conversion Therapy! First, we talk about some of the differences between the upcoming motion picture and his memoir. Then, we dive into casting, from his parents getting played by academy award-winning Aussies, to the challenges of casting LGBTQ roles. From there, we go into the dangers of conversion therapy and what battles still need to be fought, as well as where  progress is being made…and so much more. Despite the dark topic, we managed to have SO MUCH fun on this episode (because we might all be dead inside)! Probably too much fun because we had to edit out at least 15 minutes where we took things a little too far. We end it with a question from a Canadian listener who is fresh out of the closet. Buy and read Boy Erased, and then see it in theaters. Or the other way around, whichever. #RepresentationMatters #TellQueerStories

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Divorce w/ Tara Clancy- Ep. 50

For our 50th episode, the incredible Tara Clancy (NYT, NPR’s Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me, The Moth) joined us to talk about Carolyn’s favorite topic: Divorce! Okay, maybe it’s not her favorite topic, but it was nice to have another divorced dyke to commiserate with. We talk about the external pressures that make you feel bad about ending your marriage, even when it’s the best thing for everyone involved. How do things get to that point? How do you move on? What do you do when children are involved? Are vacations to National Parks the beginning of the end for queer couples? We also take a listener’s question about her “friend” who she swears isn’t her, but we’re not buying it!

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U-Hauling w/ Sophie Santos – Ep. 49

Comedian, writer, and actress Sophie Santos (UCB, The Lesbian Agenda, Handmaid’s Tale: The Musical) joins us to talk about the answer to the classic setup, “What does a lesbian bring to a second date?” Hint: It’s not a dental dam.  We dissect the urge to merge and whether or not we’re really that much quicker to sign a lease with our ladies than hetero couples. We also talk about what kind of girlfriend with think Cara Delevingne is, what Pink’s life could have been had her career not taken off, and whether or not it’s weird that Carolyn would totally get with Madonna (in theory) no matter how insufferable she is. You’ll have to listen to the whole episode to find out whether or not we all move in together by the end (or whether or not we figure out the VMAs). Oh, and this episode is definitely NOT sponsored by Norwegian or Spirit airlines.

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Summer w/ Nicole Pasquale – Ep. 48

Summer, the official season of the gays, is winding down, so Nicole Pasquale (UCB, Woke AF) stopped by to dyke out about the good, the bad, and the disgustingly humid parts of these few months. Plus, Nicole shares the magical details of a witchy getaway fueled by shrooms and a blood moon. What a time to be alive! We also talk about our butts getting touched during massages and the rediscovery of Carolyn’s internet friend from her chat room years. Lastly, we answer a listener question about body size and dating. Enjoy this episode before the season starts to change!

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Activism w/ Amy Siskind – Ep. 47

THE Amy Siskind (The New Agenda, The Weekly List) joins us to Dyke Out about activism in the face of an administration that’s worse than season 7 of The L Word (or Below Her Mouth which we discuss up top). Amy has been following and documenting the daily deluge of the harmful and #notnormal actions happening under this government, and we are just in awe of her ability to take on such an exhausting endeavor. We ask about how important it is to pay attention to what’s happening vs. ignoring it for your own sanity. And, on a scale of finding a girlfriend in Canada to stockpiling water for your soon-to-be-built doomsday bunker, how nervous do you need to be about Trump getting re-elected? We don’t want to give away too much, but this episode gave us the optimistic boost we’ve been needing! But before we talk about Amy, we dyke out about bad lesbian movies, the lesbian breakup heard ’round the internet, and how much we love Sharice Davids.

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Money w/ Muna Mire – Ep. 46

It makes the world go round but often leaves us feeling flat. Writer and producer Muna Mire (CondeNast, Teen Vogue, The Rundown With Robin Thede) joins us to talk about the struggles of being a queer person trying to pursue a creative career. Money is an uncomfortable thing for people to talk about, whether you have too much or not enough, so we try to uncover any ways in which we can make this topic a little less stigmatizing…and we aren’t sure if we succeeded. Carolyn also dykes out about seeing The Miseducation of Cameron Post and the preview for Lizzie (#Stewvigny4E), while Sarah recaps the glory of seeing Beyonce and her husband of lesser fame in concert. We also answer a listener question about dating while doing through a divorce.

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Raised By Gay Moms w/ Lucas Connolly – ep. 45


Comedian Lucas Connolly (Seeso’s New York’s Funniest Comedians) has FOUR gay moms, so we overlooked his affiliation with the patriarchy to have him come on the show and dyke out about his upbringing. We knew Lucas had a lot of moms, but what we didn’t know is that one of them is a well-known LGBT activist and politician (research fail)! We had so many questions, like what’s it like growing up in a queer household in Laramie, Wyoming, how did this affect his dating life, and what does he do on mother’s day??? But before we dig into gay mom territory, Carolyn talks about seeing Janelle Monae live, and Sarah wants the New York Post to LEAVE BRITNEY ALONE!!! Plus, we take a question from a listener who wants to explore the world as a lesbian, but her boyfriend is not onboard.

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-If you’re in NYC on August 6, come to Queer Film Theory 101 at House of Wax Bar to see Carolyn dissect all of the queer subtext in the movie My Girl.

Homoground w/ Lynn Casper – Ep. 44

Lynn Casper, curator of queer indie music and founder/producer of Homoground, joins us to dyke out about how her popular and longstanding internet-radio-show-turned-podcast came to be. What’s different about music made by queer musicians? How has music by queer musicians changed and evolved over the years? Who should you be adding to your Spotify playlist right now? We recorded this episode before Carolyn left for vacation, when there was a chance she was walking into a parent trap situation and New York was on a mission to turn us all into puddles of sweat. Plus, learn Sarah’s ramen hack and wax nostalgic with us about Nickelodeon in the 90s. One last note, the show Carolyn plugged on Friday, July 27 is CANCELLED. So don’t show up at Under St. Marks that night…or do if you like surprises!

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