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Ex-Husbands w/ Tessa Skara – Ep. 95

¡Ay, caramba! Comedian and rock goddess Tessa Skara (High Maintenance) came to dyke out with us about ex-husbands, though admittedly, she has more to say on the topic than we do. Tessa tells us how TV sitcoms shaped her idea of what a husband was supposed to be, and how her queer identity affected the relationship. Her journey to becoming a fabulous NYC divorcée is heartfelt, fascinating, funny, and probably relatable for many of our listeners. We also talk about Broadway’s The Prom, our own proms, holding in emotions, and the toxic manifestations repressed homosexuality. Plus, we share our theories and gripes on the now infamous “Work Wife” piece from The New York Times. And as always, we end with a listener question about the acceptance of being aroflux in the LGBTQ community. Thank goodness for Google.

Dyke Out with us at The Stonewall Inn on August 26

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Masturbation w/ Melody Kamali – Ep. 94

Fire up that incognito browser and settle in for this squirtastic episode on masturbation with comedian Melody Kamali! From anecdotes, to survey data, to things we don’t want our moms to hear, we bare it all. Did you know that queer women masturbate more than straight women? Or at least we’re more willing to admit it! Frequency? Toys? Location? We go there. Did Jamie Lee Curtis’s striptease in True Lies make you crave some alone time? We also discuss whether or not Missy Elliott is out and the creepiness of (male) magicians. Plus, we answer a listener questions about dental dams!!!

Dyke Out with us at The Stonewall Inn on August 26, where you can see Melody perform! (standup, not masturbation)

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Fat and Queer w/ Colette McIntyre – Ep. 93

Colette McIntyre is so much more than fat and queer, and that couldn’t be more evident than on this very funny episode. We had a BLAST bitching about the oppressive summer weather, Lea DeLaria’s Problematic Strap, and Carolyn’s inability to pee outside. Then we dyke out about what it’s like to be fat and queer, and whether or not the LGBTQ+ community is inclusive of different body types. And we tackle questions like why do fat and queer women get automatically labeled as butch? Why aren’t people capable of giving a compliment without bringing body-size into it. Why don’t people just mind their fucking business? And most importantly, which of our listeners is going to fall in love with Colette over Instagram and smooch her IRL??? Lastly, we answer a listener question about her homophobic family.

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OCD w/ Olivia Levine – Ep. 92

Holy heat wave! Is summer almost over? We miss our flannels. Lucky for us, we got to have a cool conversation with the funny and grind-happy Olivia Levine about OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder). It’s an anxiety disorder that is widely misunderstood, so Olivia breaks down what it is and how it manifests in her life. We talk about how it has intersected with her sexual identity and affected her relationships, as well as what she does to cope. But first, we talk about one of our favorite topics – Sarah’s lack of queer media consumption, as well as what it was like for Olivia growing up in San Francisco. And, we end by answering a listener question about coming out at work Special shout out to Dyke Soccer!

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Stand-up Comedy w/ Ali Kolbert – Ep. 91

We invited the HILARIOUS Ali Kolbert (The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon) to come and dyke out about stand-up comedy, but it quickly turned into a roast. Carolyn gives a quick recap of her trip to Peru, or at least her understanding of it. Then, Ali calls out Sarah’s most problematic behavior: refusing to watch queer tv. So instead we talk about Big Little Lies, one of our favorite straight-people topics. Eventually we get to talking about being a queer stand-up comic, including performing in queer spaces and talking about our sexuality to straight audiences. We only scratch the surface, but hopefully it’s enough to give you an idea of what it’s like out there for queer women in comedy. Maybe we could have covered more, but Ali and Sarah were having too much fun with the sadder details of Carolyn’s past relationships.

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Dyke Spaces w/ Alex Koones – Ep. 90

Whether you identify as lesbian, bisexual, queer, or ace, (cue Cheers theme song) sometimes you wanna go where everybody is a dyke. But when lesbian bars are closing down at the pace of Shane’s love life, we need to create new dyke spaces while supporting those that still exist. Alex Koones, the founder of Babetown dinner parties for queer women and trans and non-binary people, joined us to tell us about the dyke spaces she frequents, and the one she created. Why do we seek out these spaces? How have they changed over the years? How do you create dyke spaces in your community? This episode was recorded the Monday after NYC Pride, so Carolyn and Sarah also share how they celebrated, including Sarah’s thoughts on her first Dyke March. We end the episode with a listener’s question about internalized homophobia while trying to date women.

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Rebounds w/ pronoun (Alyse Vellturo) – Ep. 89

Trying to bounce back from a broken heart can be fun, messy, and everything in between. Alyse Alyse Vellturo, who makes music under the name pronoun, joined us to dyke out about the different ways we try to get over one person by getting under another. Or how sometimes, you don’t need a person at all. We talk about what constitutes a rebound, how to communicate expectations, and when does a rebound stop being a rebound? Also, Sarah gives a very detailed example of a rebound gone bad in a series of hard-to-defend moves on her part. It’s a cautionary tale for our listeners. Before we get to the topic, Carolyn rants about how nobody under 30 seems to care about Madonna, and the dykes discuss how their pride week is going. Be sure to listen to pronoun’s album “i’ll show you stronger” and see when you can catch her on tour opening for Taking Back Sunday.

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Sobriety w/ Be Steadwell – Ep. 88

Pride month is over, but let’s keep the gay going with a new episode! The talented Be Steadwell was in town to play the opening ceremony of world pride but made some time to dyke out about being sober. The queer community experiences addiction and alcoholism at higher rates than cis straight people, so whether you’re sober or not, it’s important to be aware of these struggles. We discuss why people decide to be sober, how it can affect relationships and your social life, the challenges, and the many perks. We also answer a listener question about dating as a newly out gay woman. Once you’re done listening, be sure to check out Be’s latest album, Queer Love Songs, out now!

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Coming Out After 30 w/ Liza Treyger – Ep. 87

We did it! We had a great live recording in NYC and got to meet some of our gaymazing listeners (even the straight ones are gaymazing for being there). This episode has it all, including Sarah’s mom (okay, she’s just in the room), past guest Jess Henderson doing standup, and our special guest for the evening, Liza Treyger (The Degenerates on Netflix). We talked about everything from Carolyn’s West coast tour to Big Little Lies to Taylor Swift and more. And what’s a discussion about coming out without a few minutes of discussing The L Word? As much as we try to stay away, we can’t! Even though Liza had previously hooked up with women, it took years before she realized she actually wanted to date them, and once she did, things made so much more sense. We explored the ways in which it might be different from coming out at a younger age, and how it’s changed her perspective. We also answer a listener question who wants to know if her parents know she’s queer based on the car they want to buy her.

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Pop Music w/ Sir Babygirl – Ep. 86

Cool episode alert! We’re talking all things queer and pop with your next big crush, the very funny and extremely talented Sir Babygirl! We talk about our experiences with pop music, from being raised on Whitney Houston to shunning the genre during our teen years because of stigmatization. But there’s so much power in pop music, especially for women and queer artists. Sir Babygirl also tells us more about her signature strap, and about the struggles she’s encountered while making her way into the industry. PLUS, she gifts us with an acoustic performance of her cover of Kesha’s “Praying” which she recently recorded for pride, and you can read more about it here. But first, we dyke out about The Perfection on Netflix and sex swings (as we all should be doing this pride month). We also answer a listener’s question about how to talk to others about her polyamory. We hope you love this episode as much as we do, and please check our Sir Babygirl’s album “Crush On Me” which is out now on all the usual suspects.

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