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Apologies w/ Tien Tran – Ep. 151

We beg your pardon, express our deepest regrets, and hope you can forgive us for this week’s episode. Comedian and writer Tien Tran (Work In Progress) thought long an hard about it, and ultimately decided to come forward and dyke out about apologies. Apologies in general and specific ones *cough* ELLEN *cough.* Why do most apologies fall short? Do women apologize too much or are we just displaying empathy? Is there too much apologizing in same-sex relationships? Should you apologize for this shitty things you did in high school if those days are long behind you? Also, Tien shares a story about an UNFORGIVABLE thing her sister did in the past, and Melody gives Carolyn ideas on how to gay up her yogurt game. Finally, we end with a listener question about what to do with sex toys when a relationship ends. Do you forgive us?

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Shame w/ Lisa Haas – Ep. 150

What does Dame Judy Dench have to do with queer shame? Actor and writer Lisa Haas (Wild Nights with Emily) joins us to get to the bottom of the shame we feel around our queer identities. While we’re filled with gay pride, they’re no denying that shame plays a big role in shaping our feelings around sexuality as we grow up. And perhaps even to this day! We reflect on our early memories of feeling shame and bully Melody into searching her repressed feelings to relate. Plus, we give our thoughts on Ratched and talk about our respectively terrible weeks. Lastly, we end on a question from a listener who is unhappy with her therapist.

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PC Culture w/ Judy Gold – Ep. 149

Political correctness can be a great thing when it comes to treating people with respect and dignity, but can it go to far? Comedy legend Judy Gold joins us to talk about how PC Culture has been weaponized against comedians and why that hurts us all. Judy unleashes her frustration about the current state of the country, and rightfully so. But more importantly, she points out the hypocrisy in the standards at which we hold comedians to, when our leaders do far worse with little to no consequences. We discuss her latest book, Yes, I Can Say That, which dives into the role of comedians as truth tellers, the history of pushing the envelope, and why people get upset when they toe or cross the line. Plus, we talk about IRL interactions with listeners, a new, hot celesbian pairing, and what Monica Lewinsky’s choice of car says about her sexuality. Finally, we end with a question from a listener who is worried about her sexual inexperience with women.

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Non-binary w/ Gara Lonning – Ep. 148

We’re going outside the binary this week to discuss an identity that an increasing number of folks in the LGBTQ+ community are embracing. Comedian and performance artist Gara Lonning (We’re Having Gay Sex) joins us to explain to Carolyn’s mom (sort of) what it means to be non-binary. We dyke out about common misconceptions and the intersection with trans identity. Also, how do you talk to family about it? What should you do if you accidentally misgender someone? And, why should you never ask an enby friend for a “pass?” Plus, we introduce a political conspiracy theory that is probably, totally true, and Gara reveals their true thoughts on the term “nibling.” And while we’re able to have an interesting and fun conversation about gender amongst cis and trans-identifying dykes, we expose an area with a much larger gap in common ground: Gen-Z vs Millennial celebrity cultural references. Finally, we end on a listener question about how to handle homophobic comments in the workplace.

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Gay Immersion w/ Cara Connors – Ep. 147

Get your workbooks out and agendas ready because this week, we’re dyking out with comedian Cara Connors (Just For Laughs, E!) about her gay immersion! How does one go from being married to a man to indulging in a gay Rumspringa? Pretty seamlessly, actually. Aside from dating as many women as humanly possible, what else do you do when you’re first coming out of the closet to familiarize yourself with queer culture? What if you’ve always been immersed in gayness and just didn’t realize it? Before we dive into the topic, we talk about the Annomite trailer, but only because it’s our contractual obligation. Also, Carolyn shows off her talent for guessing exactly the kind of car you buy based on your queer vibe. Finally, we end with a listener question about deflecting rude questions from neighbors. Please note, if you’re a Pisces who has a problem with the things said in this episode, please take it up directly with Cara. (Sorry Cara!)

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Solo Polyamory w/ Ashley Ray – Ep. 146

If monogamy isn’t for you, you never want to merge bank accounts with someone, but you’ve got a lot of love to give (and hope to receive it back), then perhaps solo polyamory is right for you! Comedian and writer Ashley Ray has been living that solo polyamory life (in a pandemic no less!) and joins us to correct common misconceptions about her love life. We talk about the funny and tragic red flags she sifts through when dating, how people react to her relationship structure, and why structure and communication are so important. Plus, she talks about her wild zodiac dating experiment which we hope gets made into a TV show. This episode just may leave you polycurious! Plus, Carolyn and Melody talk about Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, The DNC, The Chicks, and our polar opposite gayest things of the week! Finally, we end with a question from a listener who seems to be the victim of an emotional terrorist.

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Tea w/ Jen Richards – Ep. 145

Put on the kettle, because the incredible and talented Jen Richards (Netflix’s Disclosure, HBO’s Mrs. Fletcher, Emmy-nominated Her Story) joins us this week to talk about the beverage that dates back to 2732 B.C.: Tea! Jen is a writer, actress, and activist whose morning routine involves brewing some tea with her own special touches to complement her mood. We talk about how we were introduced to tea, why it’s inherently queer, and the different times and places we’ve enjoyed it. If your not into tea, you might feel your curiosity brewing as we dyke out about this versatile and comforting beverage. Plus, Jen gives us the scoop on her recent engagement, and tells us what she’s been up to in quarantine. But before tea time, we talk about the outdoor comedy crackdown, the attacks on Kamala Harris, Carolyn’s big “gayest thing” moment, and the one topic that Carolyn promised to never talk about again. And, we finally reveal the new name for our listeners!

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Healing w/ Chemda – Ep. 144

When life tests us through heartbreak or tragedy, we have to find ways to heal our wounds and move forward. And if anyone knows this, it’s Chemda (Keith and The Girl) who dykes out with us about her journey from straight-ish girl, to queer relationship, to heartache – both literal and figurative. Love, loss, and living have helped her find ways to cope with the crazy things life throws her way. We also talk about her relationship with the queer community now that she is divorced from her trans husband. And we answer the age old question of “should you be friends with your ex” once and for all (yeah right). Plus, Carolyn talks about all the lesbian things she did in the woods, and yet Melody still manages to out-gay her. Finally, we give TOO MUCH advice to our listener who sent in a question about her desire to hookup with men.

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Labels w/ Becca Blackwell – Ep. 143

This episode is everything and nothing, because that’s where we always end up when discussing labels. But to us, it’s actually everything because we’re dyking out with the hilarious and entertaining Becca Blackwell (High Maintenance on HBO)! We talk about their gender and sexuality journey, as well as their relationship to labels throughout their life. What happens when we hold individual definitions for shared labels? Is it okay to disagree about what they mean? What are the spaces we create for our identities and who can occupy them? Can a trans masc person still be a dyke? (ABSOLUTELY). Plus, we talk about the thing many of you have been asking us to talk about, even though we have previously sworn off talking about it/her/spoiler-alert-it’s-Taylor-Swift. And, Melody may have finally gotten Carolyn hooked on Real Housewives drama. Finally, we end with a listener question about dealing with misogynistic gatekeepers.

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Sex Parties w/ Fatimah Asghar – Ep. 142

It’s a sex party (chat), and you’re invited (to listen)! Poet and filmmaker Fatimah Asghar (Brown Girls, NPR, PBS) joins us to dyke out about sex parties, which inspired her latest short film Got Game. First, apologies for the guest audio. It was the best we could get given the circumstances, but it’s such a great conversation that we hope you won’t mind. Where were we? Oh yes, sex parties! We talk less about the actual sex (lame) and more about trying to make a connection and what these interactions can tell us about ourselves. Plus, we talk about the importance of consent and the steps we can take to make these spaces as safe as possible.

Before we get to our topic, we talk about our gayest things of the week, and Los Angeles’ gayest thing of the year! Finally, we end with a question from a frustrated listener whose girlfriend won’t send nudes.

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