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Relationship Escalator w/ Nicole Pacent – Ep. 186

Are you riding the relationship escalator? Maybe you are and don’t even know it! Actor, Writer, Podcaster, and Educator Nicole Pacent (Coming Out with Lauren and Nicole) joins us to talk about how we consciously, and subconsciously, model our relationships based on the escalator model. How does media and society shape our thinking around what makes a successful relationship? Why aren’t monogamous couples communicating the terms of their relationships like many polyamorous couples? What is the goal in any relationship? We explore these questions and many more on this thoughtful episode about love, happiness, and dying alone. Plus, Melody reveals the new competitive sport she’s taken up, while Carolyn embraces her inner hippie. Finally, we end on a question from a listener who has found her “person,” even though that person perhaps doesn’t want to be found.

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Love Addiction w/ Rivkah Reyes – Ep. 185

Might as well face it you’re addicted to (things that actually aren’t but can sometimes trick you into thinking it’s) love! Actor/Musician/Comedian/Writer/Reader Rivkah Reyes joins us to dyke out about their recovery and journey to being spiritually healthy. After years of struggling with substance abuse, they realized that there were other addictive behaviors that were more dangerous to their health and wellbeing. We talk about the different forms of love addiction and what it’s like to navigate relationships once you’re aware of it. There’s so much great information and insight into mental health in this episode, and of course, laughs along the way. Riv also shares how their past as a child actor may have contributed to normalizing unhealthy behaviors. Plus, is Rivkah’s ‘gayest thing’ THE gayest thing a guest has ever shared? Carolyn and Melody put in their best gay effort at the Dyke Cookout, but it doesn’t even compare. Finally, we end with another really difficult question from a listener who has so big decisions ahead.

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Lesbian Tastemakers w/ Diana Souhami – Ep. 184

It’s our most charming episode yet! That’s because author and celebrated biographer Diana Souhami (No Modernism Without Lesbians) joins us from the English countryside to dyke out about the lesbians who were critical to the modernist movement. Diana tells us all about the lives, lovers, and accomplishments of these tastemakers who eschewed the patriarchy and pursued their passions. And it’s juicy. We also discuss issues of identity, and how it’s both changed and remained the same over the past century. There’s so much to learn from these influential dykes, but there’s just as much to learn from our guest who writes about them. Enjoy all of the wisdom Diana offers up in this episode, from woodpecker talk to QUILTBAGs, and so much more. Plus, we reveal our gayest our of town experiences. And finally, Carolyn lets RHONY influence the way she answers this week’s listener’s question. You don’t like it? Blame Melody.

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The Signs w/ Mackenzie Lansing – Ep. 183

The English teacher you wanted to be bffs with, that cartoon you were strangely attracted to, the time you dabbled in witchcraft, the binder of hot women you carried around. When you look back, it all seems SO OBVIOUS that you were not straight. Or did it? Actor and writer Mackenzie Lansing (Mare of Easttown, The Deuce) joins us to talk about all the signs that should have let us know we were queer YEARS before we figured it out. Some signs are painfully obvious, while others are just part of growing up and figuring out who you are. So should we really beat ourselves up for not putting the puzzle together sooner? And whose to know when the puzzle is actually complete? We also sneak in a couple of questions about what it’s like to act across from Kate Winslet. Plus, Carolyn and Melody share a gayest thing of the week. And as always, we end with a listener question from a young U-Hauler who wants to overshare with her parents.

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Superhuman Strength w/ Alison Bechdel – Ep. 182

Dykon Alison Bechdel (Fun Home, Dykes To Watch Out For) joins us to dyke out about her latest (and thoroughly entertaining) graphic novel, The Secret to Superhuman Strength. We talk about Alison’s journey of self improvement through her relationships with fitness and people. But we couldn’t just talk about exercise and self discovery. We also chatted about Cubby Hole, the patriarchy, the impact of the pandemic, and so much more. Plus, Melody finally feels vindicated after Carolyn indulges in her favorite TV show. Finally, we wrap things up with a life-changing listener question.

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Reality Queers w/ Jess Rothschild – Ep. 181

This episode is full of fighting, drama, and gossip. But don’t worry, we’re not the ones involved. We’re dyking out about the queers (and wannabes) of reality TV with writer and podcaster Jess Rothschild (Hot Takes and Deep Dives). It’s a pretty significant episode in that after the conversation, Carolyn FINALLY watched Real Housewives of New York. We talk about the origin of Jess’s love of reality TV, our favorite personalities over the years, what it’s like to meet them in person and more. We also discuss shows that have been inclusive of queer people and our hopes for future representation. Plus, Jess gives insight as to why people love to watch these shows that are often dismissed as trash TV. But before our reality deep dive, we talk about where Carolyn will be for Memorial Day weekend and what has Melody in tears this week. Finally, we end with a question from a listener wants to know if her friend’s boyfriend is guilty by association.

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Pride w/ Bri Giger – Ep. 180

It’s never too early to talk about our favorite week of the year (or is it?). That’s why we have comedian and musician Bri Giger on to dyke out about all things PRIDE! What are the pros and cons of trying to hook up with someone at pride? When did we learn about the history? What were our first experiences attending pride? We dive into our love/hate relationship with the week that’s supposed to be all about celebrating who we are. Plus, Melody proves that the romance is still alive in her relationship, while Carolyn fully commits to the lumberdyke lifestyle. Finally, we end with a question from a listener who is struggling to date in the pandemic. Be sure to check out our Patreon for all the hot goss and behind the scenes chit chat!

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Shiva Baby w/ Emma Seligman – Ep. 179

Bisexual representation is buzzing in this episode about the movie everyone’s talking about (or should be talking about): Shiva Baby! Writer/Director Emma Seligman joins us to byke out about the themes of the film, including the complicated dynamics between queer women, the intersection of family and sexuality, and sugaring. In fact, Emma indulges Carolyn’s many questions about the world of sugaring and its presence on college campuses. Also, are lesbian fight clubs a thing? Plus, Carolyn may have gone too far in angering Nashville’s gay mafia, and Melody finally leaves her apartment only to encounter reasons to stay in her apartment. Finally, we end with a question from a listener who is afraid of passing on her negative feelings about men to her daughter.

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Gay Nashville w/ Brooke Eden – Ep. 178

Y’all ready for an episode that’s a little bit country and a little bit queer? How about a lot of both? Country singer-songwriter Brooke Eden joins us to dyke out about Nashville’s gay mafia and the changes on the country music scene. We had a blast learning about how her and her girlfriend got together, the struggles of keeping their relationship a secret, and best of all, the joy of openly living her truth. We also talked about what’s changed since Chely Wright came out in 2010 and how Nashville (and it’s music) is a lot gayer than people assume. Be sure to check out Brooke’s latest singles and follow her to see what comes next! Plus, we chat about dykes who hike, vaccinations, and end with a listener question about confusing Canadians.

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Feminism w/ Gabrielle Korn – Ep. 177

Feminism often feels like a dirty loaded word, but regardless of your gender, it’s impossible to ignore. Editor and journalist Gabrielle Korn (NYLON, NETFLIX) joins us to dyke out about her experience confronting feminism head on while working in women’s media. We discuss the themes of her new book, Everybody Else Is Perfect, and how feminism will never work if we a) aren’t being intersectional and inclusive and b) include everybody but ourselves. Also, how does being queer affect our approach to feminism? And how do we dismantle the patriarchy? Plus, we announce a slight change to the pod and share bad experiences with strangers. Finally, we end on a question from a listener who can’t afford to move out of the place they share with their ex.

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