coming out

Biphobia w/ Rosa Escandón – Ep. 82

This episode is not camp, but that won’t stop us from kicking things off by talking about New York’s gayest night that is consistently ruined by the straights: The MET Gala. We also talk about some hot (and stale) celesbian gossip, and solve the mystery of Sarah’s Palm Springs lewk. Was it just some vacation experimentation or is Sarah getting ready to be Kyrsten Sinema’s Arizona-based house wife? But best of all, the hilarious Rosa Escandón joins for this extra long episode to discuss all of this and more! Our topic this week focuses on biphobia from within the LGBTQ+ community and the heteros looking in. Biphobia and bierasure is an ongoing problem, and the ladies examine the possible sources behind it while doing some serious navel-gazing. Rosa has a particularly interesting perspective on the topic because not only is she bisexual, but she was raised in the super queer Bay Area by her lesbian moms. It’s an interesting discussion, and one that reminds us all to examine our biases and keep doing better to make everyone feel welcome and safe in the community.

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Emily Dickinson w/ Madeleine Olnek – ep. 78

The queer erasure of historical figures is an ongoing problem, but some people are working to make the true stories known. Whether you’ve read her work or not, you may have heard that Emily Dickinson was a reclusive spinster who didn’t want to publish her poems while she was alive. Her letters prove otherwise, yet her queer truth is still buried behind bad biographies and literal erasures. Filmmaker Madeleine Olnek came by to dyke out about Emily Dickinson’s lesbian life and promote her film that brings it to life. Out April 12 in select markets, you MUST see Wild Nights With Emily starring Molly Shannon. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll lookup every important woman who has ever been deemed a spinster and take a second look at their life.

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Growing Up Baptist w/ Chelsea Moore – Ep. 76

Many of us in the LGBTQ+ community grow up feeling like we don’t really belong or fit in. Now multiply that time ten and you might get a sense of what it’s like to be a queer kid growing up in a religious household. Filmmaker Chelsea Moore (Sour Peach Films) came by to dyke out about her Southern Baptist upbringing in Tennessee, which included being home schooled. We learn about Chelsea’s early impressions of homosexuality, and how her religion’s teachings conflicted with her own experiences, as well as how it’s shaped the films she makes today. We also get the scoop on what it’s like to work with our one and only #wcw (but maybe we should change it up), Mariska Hargitay, on the set of Law & Order SVU. Finally, we answer a listener’s question about the changing nature of her sexual preferences and her husband’s change of heart on polyamory.

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Plants w/ Jessica Henderson – Ep. 67

Jessica Henderson (Upright Citizen’s Brigade) came by with her green thumb to talk about something that gets her all hot and bothered: queer ladies kissing. BUT ALSO PLANTS. From sexy orchids to emo peace lilies, we talk about the importance of self care, natural healing, and queerness all in relation to the kingdom Plantae. This episode is sprouting with gayness because we spend the first half-hour talking about things like our favorite TV kisses and what punishments we’ll subject straight people to once we’ve taken over the world (any and all straight listeners will be spared!). Also, if you’re headed to Clexacon this April, be sure to stop in on Jessica’s panel about queer voices in comedy.

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Life-Changing Decisions w/ Liz Glazer – Ep. 57

Comedian and friend of the podcast Liz Glazer graced our studio with her presence to dyke out philosophically about Life-Changing Decisions! What does changing your career from Lawyer to Comedian/Actor have to do with coming out? More than you think! We explore how and why we make life-altering choices in our life, and what role our emotions place in the decision-making process. These moments are often scary and come with loads of uncertainty, so how do you navigate them and know whether or not you’re making the right decision? How do you support others on the brink of making a big change? You’ll also learn about the fun time Carolyn met Cecilia’s ex-wife, and what Liz had to do with it. Plus, we answer a listener question about how to deal with religious parents when you’re in a new and important relationship.

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Gay Conversion Therapy w/ Garrard Conley – Ep. 53

Garrard Conley, author of Boy Erased and activist, joined us to talk about his experience with gay conversion therapy and what it’s like to have a painful part of his past turned into a feature film. We had SO MUCH to talk about, starting with our collective rage about the Kavanaugh hearings and the high standards we (society) measure victims/survivors against. After twenty minutes of therapeutically channeling our rage, we move onto a just-as-heavy topic: Gay Conversion Therapy! First, we talk about some of the differences between the upcoming motion picture and his memoir. Then, we dive into casting, from his parents getting played by academy award-winning Aussies, to the challenges of casting LGBTQ roles. From there, we go into the dangers of conversion therapy and what battles still need to be fought, as well as where  progress is being made…and so much more. Despite the dark topic, we managed to have SO MUCH fun on this episode (because we might all be dead inside)! Probably too much fun because we had to edit out at least 15 minutes where we took things a little too far. We end it with a question from a Canadian listener who is fresh out of the closet. Buy and read Boy Erased, and then see it in theaters. Or the other way around, whichever. #RepresentationMatters #TellQueerStories

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Kids & Gender w/ Caitlin Ruppert – Ep. 33

Three cis-gendered queer women without kids walk into a podcasting studio to talk about challenging gender norms and raising children. What could go wrong? Comedian and child-caregiver Caitlin Ruppert joins us to talk about why we need to stop shaming and correcting kids who act outside of gender norms. Also, who decided that trucks are for boys anyways when, newsflash, women are allowed to drive them too (at least in this country). Are gender reveal parties strictly a straight person thing? Why are people obsessed with the romantic lives of babies? (It does sound a little bit adorable…) We also talk about the terrible people who love forcing other to drink shots. If that’s you, KNOCK IT OFF.

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Young, Queer, & Famous w/ Sarah Pappalardo – Ep. 31

Sarah Pappalardo, co-founder of Reductress, joins us to dyke out about all of the queer women of Hollywood, youtube, and wherever else you see cool entertainers who also happen to be women. Why is coming out different for these ladies? How are they so cool? Are the days of coming out on the cover of Time magazine ancient history? Give a listen as we share our hopes and dreams for the futures of the young, queer, and famous.

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Pansexuality w/ Mindy Raf – Ep. 30

Pansexual is no longer just the term once used to describe pixyland.org. It’s actually a sexual identity that an increasing number of people in the LGBTQ community identify with despite its anemic representation in mainstream media and pop culture. We’ve talked about it before, but wanted to invite quintuple threat Mindy Raf (TNT, VH1, MTV’s Girl Code) to dyke out about her pansexuality in more detail. We also revisit the topic of polyamory and do it much more justice than the first time around (sorry polys!). We hope you enjoy the discussion, and if not, then you can walk right out the fe-door-a (or just email us and tell us why). Plus, one of our hosts makes an exciting announcement that only her and her mom will probably care about! Tune in!

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The Closet w/ Kelley Quinn – Ep. 28

Because she’s no longer trapped in the closet, comedian Kelley Quinn (Upright Citizens Brigade) came to dyke out about what it’s like to have to keep your sexuality a secret. As many of us know, coming out is something that many in the LGBTQ community have to do over and over again. Can we envision a future where we no longer need to “come out” with our sexuality? What is the role of straight people in keeping us in the closet? Does anyone enjoy the closet? What about all the queers in Hollywood who keep dodging the issue?  We also talk about whether or not a movie is an appropriate first date, and which cartoon characters were totes gay. Take a listen! Oh, and:

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