Gay Rights

Gay Conversion Therapy w/ Garrard Conley – Ep. 53

Garrard Conley, author of Boy Erased and activist, joined us to talk about his experience with gay conversion therapy and what it’s like to have a painful part of his past turned into a feature film. We had SO MUCH to talk about, starting with our collective rage about the Kavanaugh hearings and the high standards we (society) measure victims/survivors against. After twenty minutes of therapeutically channeling our rage, we move onto a just-as-heavy topic: Gay Conversion Therapy! First, we talk about some of the differences between the upcoming motion picture and his memoir. Then, we dive into casting, from his parents getting played by academy award-winning Aussies, to the challenges of casting LGBTQ roles. From there, we go into the dangers of conversion therapy and what battles still need to be fought, as well as where  progress is being made…and so much more. Despite the dark topic, we managed to have SO MUCH fun on this episode (because we might all be dead inside)! Probably too much fun because we had to edit out at least 15 minutes where we took things a little too far. We end it with a question from a Canadian listener who is fresh out of the closet. Buy and read Boy Erased, and then see it in theaters. Or the other way around, whichever. #RepresentationMatters #TellQueerStories

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Raised By Gay Moms w/ Lucas Connolly – ep. 45


Comedian Lucas Connolly (Seeso’s New York’s Funniest Comedians) has FOUR gay moms, so we overlooked his affiliation with the patriarchy to have him come on the show and dyke out about his upbringing. We knew Lucas had a lot of moms, but what we didn’t know is that one of them is a well-known LGBT activist and politician (research fail)! We had so many questions, like what’s it like growing up in a queer household in Laramie, Wyoming, how did this affect his dating life, and what does he do on mother’s day??? But before we dig into gay mom territory, Carolyn talks about seeing Janelle Monae live, and Sarah wants the New York Post to LEAVE BRITNEY ALONE!!! Plus, we take a question from a listener who wants to explore the world as a lesbian, but her boyfriend is not onboard.

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Femme Invisibility w/ Jacq The Stripper – Ep. 36

Queer Bimbo(TM) Jacqueline Frances aka Jacq the Stripper graces the Dyking Out studio with her presence to talk about Femme Invisibility. Is it still even a thing? What kind of pressures do baby dykes face to look or conform to certain lesbian ideals? Do we all go through the vest phase? We revisit our Strippers topic as Jacq dishes about why women are terrible strip club patrons, and how the gig has helped her be true to her own identity when she’s off the stage. We also talk about Canada because when you have two Canadians in the same space, by law, they have to talk about. Plus, Carolyn rants about the terfs who attacked her on Twitter.

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Representation in Movies w/ Erin Greenwell – Ep. 34

Filmmaker Erin Greenwell – yeah, that’s right. We totally know people who aren’t comedians. Anyway, Erin Greenwell (Director, Writer, Editor of My Best Day which premiered at Sundance in 2012) joins us to talk about how queer representation has changed in movies over the years. We’ve come a long way from All About Eve…or have we? Why does every queer movie have to be a forbidden love story? As a film professor, Erin pushes her students to be true to their experiences in hopes that it translates to authentic stories that real people can relate to. Hopefully that will lead to more movies being made that Sarah will actually watch so that she knows what Carolyn and Karina are ranting about half the time. We also touch on all things Joy Reid and our excitement over Disobedience…even though it’s just another queer forbidden love story. We’ll see!

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Young, Queer, & Famous w/ Sarah Pappalardo – Ep. 31

Sarah Pappalardo, co-founder of Reductress, joins us to dyke out about all of the queer women of Hollywood, youtube, and wherever else you see cool entertainers who also happen to be women. Why is coming out different for these ladies? How are they so cool? Are the days of coming out on the cover of Time magazine ancient history? Give a listen as we share our hopes and dreams for the futures of the young, queer, and famous.

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Pansexuality w/ Mindy Raf – Ep. 30

Pansexual is no longer just the term once used to describe pixyland.org. It’s actually a sexual identity that an increasing number of people in the LGBTQ community identify with despite its anemic representation in mainstream media and pop culture. We’ve talked about it before, but wanted to invite quintuple threat Mindy Raf (TNT, VH1, MTV’s Girl Code) to dyke out about her pansexuality in more detail. We also revisit the topic of polyamory and do it much more justice than the first time around (sorry polys!). We hope you enjoy the discussion, and if not, then you can walk right out the fe-door-a (or just email us and tell us why). Plus, one of our hosts makes an exciting announcement that only her and her mom will probably care about! Tune in!

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The Closet w/ Kelley Quinn – Ep. 28

Because she’s no longer trapped in the closet, comedian Kelley Quinn (Upright Citizens Brigade) came to dyke out about what it’s like to have to keep your sexuality a secret. As many of us know, coming out is something that many in the LGBTQ community have to do over and over again. Can we envision a future where we no longer need to “come out” with our sexuality? What is the role of straight people in keeping us in the closet? Does anyone enjoy the closet? What about all the queers in Hollywood who keep dodging the issue?  We also talk about whether or not a movie is an appropriate first date, and which cartoon characters were totes gay. Take a listen! Oh, and:

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Teachers w/ Pat Brown – Ep. 26

Fact: teachers make up 75% of the lesbian population – at least the lesbian population that Carolyn knows personally. We are thrilled to be joined by the incredible Pat Brown for this episode! She’s been on Late Night with Stephen Colbert, has been featured on AfterEllen.com, and has an amazing comedy album out now. We talk about the role of teachers in our lives and in the current political climate. Should they have guns at school? Do they know which kids are gay? Should they have guns at school knowing which kids are gay??? We also talk about Pat’s time attending the Grammy Awards! If we could have Pat on every week, we would. Take a listen and you’ll understand why.

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Catholic School w/ Nikki Palumbo – Ep. 23

Comedy writer and proud gaytheist Nikki Palumbo (UCB, Above Average, Reductress) went to catholic school and lived to tell us about it. It turns out it’s not the lesbian underground we thought it was. How can one survive all the guilt and shame brought on by the church? How does a budding lesbian hide amongst the plaid skirts unnoticed? Are nuns even a little gay, and would they be offended that their calling is our backup plan when all else fails? We also dyke out about the super stressful experience of having to find a dude to go to prom with when it’s the last thing you want to be doing. Plus, Carolyn misremembers the plot points of one of her favorite movies.

P.S. This episode was recorded on Jennifer Aniston’s birthday, and boy is that Aveeno lotion working wonders! We’d like to formally thank Jennifer for sending our new intern Karina our way!

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The L Word w/ Gwynna Forgham-Thrift – Ep. 22

We tried to hold out as long as we could, but alas, it’s time to talk about the show that – love it or hate it – revolutionized the way the LGBTQ women were portrayed on TV. Comedian and filmmaker Gwynna Forgham-Thrift (UCB Maude Night) recently rewatched the entire series and could not wait to dyke out with us about it. How does the show hold up? What did it mean to us? How realistic was it? Where did they go wrong? Which sex scenes made us feel uncomfortable to watch with our moms in the room? What are our hopes for the reboot? If you haven’t seen the show, take a listen anyway as we tackle topics still relevant to all things LGBTQ like consent, transphopia, biphobia, butchphobia…so many phobias! And if you have seen the show, this episode is your chance to relive some of the highlights without having to listen to that damn theme song.

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