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Ex-Husbands w/ Tessa Skara – Ep. 95

¡Ay, caramba! Comedian and rock goddess Tessa Skara (High Maintenance) came to dyke out with us about ex-husbands, though admittedly, she has more to say on the topic than we do. Tessa tells us how TV sitcoms shaped her idea of what a husband was supposed to be, and how her queer identity affected the relationship. Her journey to becoming a fabulous NYC divorcée is heartfelt, fascinating, funny, and probably relatable for many of our listeners. We also talk about Broadway’s The Prom, our own proms, holding in emotions, and the toxic manifestations repressed homosexuality. Plus, we share our theories and gripes on the now infamous “Work Wife” piece from The New York Times. And as always, we end with a listener question about the acceptance of being aroflux in the LGBTQ community. Thank goodness for Google.

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Making Your Move w/ Robby Hoffman – Ep. 62

What are you even doing with you’re life if you’re not taking advantage of Uniqlo’s cashmere sale and dyking out with comedian Robby Hoffman (The Chris Gethard Show, Just For Laughs)? We invited Robby to talk about how to make a move on someone you’re interested in, a topic that several listeners have asked about. We explore the dynamic between masc and femme women, and how different the dynamics are for femmes seeking femmes. What’s the best way to know if that chick you’re digging is into you? What went down in Carolyn’s sister’s room? Robby explains why Carolyn is no longer allowed to be friends with women, but not before she makes a pitch to Wild Fang about the perfect bathing suit. Also, Carolyn shares a DYKONIC moment that she never knew was in store for her. Plus, we (really Sarah and Robby) give a listener some excellent advice on how to handle her flirty but straight (?????) roommate.

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Brazil w/ Gabriella França – Ep. 61

Get your passport ready because this episode will make you want to follow Sarah York to Brazil for Carnival! We have our first international guest on the pod, the lovely Gabriela França! She’s well-known in the Sao Paulo lesbian community for throwing the coolest queer-lady parties, having a bad ass lesbian clothing line, and being the proud owner of three cats. How are lesbians in Brazil different than in other parts of the world? What challenges does the community there face currently, and in the future given the election of their new yeasty foreskin of a President? (Brazil, I’m devastated.) Most importantly, do Brazilian lesbians wear flannel? Take a listen to find out. We also answer a listener question about ex-etiquette, AND we share some exciting news for our New York listeners! Come to Brazil!

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Tinder w/ Lane Moore – Ep. 60

We’re SWIPING RIGHT on this episode with the girl you wish you were best friends with in high school, the supremely talented Lane Moore (HBO’s Girls, Tinder Live, GLAAD Award recipient). Lane teases us with the queerest details of her new book How To Be Alone (out now), including her dabbling with witchcraft and crushes on best friends. Then we talk about her live Tinder show where she engages in ridiculous conversations with the straight men of Tinder to see just how much nonsense they’ll tolerate. You definitely don’t want to miss this episode! We end with a question from a trans listener who is considering sexual reassignment surgery.

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Loneliness w/ Aimée Lutkin – Ep. 58

Feeling lonely? Let us keep you company! The one and only Aimée Lutkin (Jezebel, UCB, 2 Dates a Week) joins us to talk about dating, being single and loneliness in an episode recorded right before Halloween (Carolyn’s couples costume announcement will be old news). Fun fact: being in a romantic relationship does not shield you from feeling lonely. We talk about the different ways that people feel lonely, as well as the unfortunate pressures we put on single people who are just trying to live their damn lives. Also, Sarah temporarily swears off relationships while Carolyn rolls her eyes so hard, you can almost hear it. We also take a listener question about what to do when you bomb a date with someone you were into.

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Matchmaking w/ Kara Laricks – Ep. 55

Fashion designer turned reality-TV-winner turned matchmaker Kara Laricks joins us to dyke out about matchmaking! We live in a world of swipes and DMs, but does that have to be the only way to date? Kara tells us all about how she sets up “foxy singles” with her LGBTQ clients, and what it means to be a matchmaker specifically for that community. We hear all about the do’s and don’ts of first dates (hint: stop talking about your ex so much!), as well as why you shouldn’t lose hope when a date doesn’t work out. Plus, Carolyn discovers her wife’s secret super power and apologizes for assuming Awkwafina is a gaysian! We end with a listener question about how to talk about your ex that you dated pre-transition.

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Interracial Relationships w/ Lauren Ashley Smith – Ep. 54

We welcomed back Lauren Ashley Smith (The Rundown With Robin Thede, VH1.com, Netflix) to dyke out with us, because once was not enough! This time, we’re tackling the topic of interracial relationships. Are queer couple more likely to enter them? What are some of the challenges? How can each person use their respective privilege to support the other? There is so much to discuss around this topic, but we get a tad distracted while getting into race politics in America and how it presents its own set of challenges. Plus, Carolyn gives her reviews of the movies Lizzie and Colette, and she delivers a very important PSA for anyone in a Q&A session.

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Soulmates w/ Morgan Miller – Ep. 39

The UNIVERSE brought UCB’s Morgan Miller our way to dyke out about soulmates and why you can’t buy bedding at T.J. Maxx. Morgan is a hilarious comedian who has performed all over the country and has recently become more in tune with her spiritual side. Have you ever met someone and felt like you knew them in a past life? How do you know if you’ve met your soulmate? Morgan shares how she met hers, while Carolyn (yes, she’s calling herself Carolyn again) reflects on how her lack of belief in soulmates may have led to her divorce. And as a lesbian, how do you know the difference between a soulmate and a first date??? We also play a little game we like to call “Soulmate Material?”, admit our fears around Dinah Shore, and preach about the transformative qualities of submerging your naked body in waters of different temperatures.

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Last week was hard. If you’re feeling down and have thoughts of suicide, please know you are not alone and find someone to talk to – a friend, family member, doctor, 1-800 number, or even an acquaintance who you think could be a good listener. You are more loved and less alone than you realize.

Sex With Dudes w/ Vivianne A. Njoku – Ep. 38

Queer multimedia artist, activist and educator, Vivianne A. Njoku, joins us for one of the funnest episodes to date! Don’t be fooled by the topic (but do have your vomit bags ready if even the mere mention of dick activates your gag reflex), because we are dyking out hard on this one. We talk about everything from Mellisa Etheridge’s weed farm to the aging royal family, to a maybe murderous grandmother. Then, we guess why queer women who mostly date women resort to sleeping with men, and discuss the perils involved. What kind of men are queer women attracted to? Are their guidelines to sexual fluidity? If you could have virtual reality sex with a man, would you? ARE WE LIVING IN A SIMULATION?! Seriously though, this episode is wild and fun and one of our favorites for sure. We hope you enjoy it!

PLUS, learn more about all the cool things Vivianne has going on:

Willie Mae Rock Camp: http://williemaerockcamp.org

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Young, Queer, & Famous w/ Sarah Pappalardo – Ep. 31

Sarah Pappalardo, co-founder of Reductress, joins us to dyke out about all of the queer women of Hollywood, youtube, and wherever else you see cool entertainers who also happen to be women. Why is coming out different for these ladies? How are they so cool? Are the days of coming out on the cover of Time magazine ancient history? Give a listen as we share our hopes and dreams for the futures of the young, queer, and famous.

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